Life After Infertility: Depression

It's been too long since I've written about infertility. After my second round of IVF was successful and I got pregnant, it became harder to write about infertility. I've felt profound guilt over this for many, many months. There were several reasons why it was hard for me to write after I got pregnant. Very few people know this, but I dealt with prenatal depression for a significant part of my pregnancy. I was completely ...

The Little Death: Pre-Implantation Miscarriage

Many of us know someone who has suffered the devastating loss of a child during pregnancy. But what of couples who lose a child even before it had the opportunity to grow? The term "pre-implantation miscarriage" is generally only known by those who have undergone in vitro fertilization, or IVF. In October 2016, my husband and I began our first round of IVF. Our cycle went very poorly - unusual given my young age and ...

LDS and Infertile: Mourn With Those That Mourn, Comfort Those That Stand In Need of Comfort

This is Part II to the LDS and Infertile series. The goal of Part II is to help LDS church members and leaders better understand infertility in the context of the LDS religion, as well as how to help alleviate the emotional burden of infertility. Infertility is an excruciating experience. The pain and isolation felt by infertile couples are often magnified in an LDS church setting, where the importance of families and child rearing is ...

LDS and Infertile: An Introduction

It had never been difficult for me to be a member of my church. That changed when I experienced infertility. I loved attending church and interacting with the other members. I enjoyed having responsibility; I recall my time in the relief society presidency (the women's organization of my church) with fondness, even though it required a great deal of my time and effort. I felt, and still feel, that my church was and is an ...

21 Months

A friend who struggles with infertility once remarked to me that people tend to only share their infertility journey after they've finally achieved a viable pregnancy or had a child. After receiving the diagnosis of infertility, I too thought it would take success for me to feel confident enough to share my story. However, I am a person who deals with pain by talking about it with people who care about me. I have already ...